Contracts

So, I use this little trick

When I start obsessing

I make a contract with myself

A pact if you will

Where I promise to stop a behavior in exchange of something bad happening to me. 

Last I made was right after a fight...

I realized what I did wrong

I knew I had to stop obsessing over it.

Then I created this pact

'If I do this again, then you can take her away from me forever. I'll accept I don't deserve her.'

The "you" isn't any God or any higher entity. It's more like...another part of me. It's me talking to myself. Or maybe it could be the universe. In fact, it can be whatever you want. 

Point is, it always works. 

In fear of losing you, I really did stop obsessing, because if I hadn't, it would me basically saying I didn't want you. 

I lost you anyway, but that's beside the point. I've made these kinds of pacts all my life. Some more important than others.

I know...who cares, right?